I got called by a headhunter recently.
This made me go into a confused state of mind.
Should I go for the interview? Should I not? What if I get it? What if I really like the role? Am I missing out if I don't go for it?
I was pretty stressed up for the past couple of days.
You see. The thing is, I've been pretty restless lately. And I was thinking, maybe if I got a job which I didn't mind and I could farm it for maybe 3-4 years and quit again, it might be fun.
And the role was something which I had experience in and probably wouldn't mind doing for a couple of years.
So I was really considering going for the interview.
And my wife and some friends said I should just go for the interview and see first.
But that's not how I do things. You see. If I go for the interview, I will need a mindset of getting the job. I can't go in with the mentality that I want to just go for fun, or to find out more.
I must be prepared, that IF they offer me, would I take it? And I need to answer the question first before starting the process.
Else it would be a waste of my time and efforts.
This is different from having a job and going for interviews to see if you should change company. Cos as long as the pay is good or the scope is worthy, then it's worth going for the interview to see how first.
This is not the same in my case.
It's not about the money, it's whether this decision would be good for the household.
And the thoughts kept bouncing through my mind. Should I just go for the interview? Then see how? I haven't even gotten an offer, why should I bother to get stressed up?
But that's the thing right. If I have no intention to take up the job, why should I even bother going for any interview?
And my wife wasn't much help at all. Cos she was just telling me to go for the interview first and see how.
And so we had to go into a proper discussion about this.
For me, I was quite interested to go for the interview.
But I was thinking, is this the best thing for the both of us?
With me working, we would have little time to spend with each other, she would be traveling around 1-2 weeks per month, I would probably finish work and reach home by 630pm earliest for dinner and by the time we have settled down after dinner, it would be 8pm. Which leaves us 2 hours to get our laundry done and any other chores before we prep up for the next day.
Not to mention, weekends would have to be spent on ironing and other chores. And we won't get home cooked food on a daily basis.
And this is a normal life, absolutely nothing wrong with it. But is this the best thing for us at our current state of life?
My wife's opinion of this was that... If I am really interested in the role, then I should go ahead and try it out.
It would be selfish for her to not allow me to go for the interview although she would prefer the status quo.
So our discussion boiled down to...
1. She would prefer the status quo cos it allows us the flexibility to be together and we have a lot of free time to be together and I can follow her on her biz trips.
2. It would be fun for me to pursue a job for a couple of years as I'm a little bored currently.
3. We have no monetary issues currently or in the foreseeable future.
For me to get a job, just cos I'm a little bored, would create a worse off situation for the household. Basically our quality of life would decrease, just to stock up more AUM which is hardly required. It's a good to have more than a need to have.
So long story short, we came to a decision that I will not be going for the interview. Simply cos it doesn't improve our quality of life.
I do wonder if it's considered a sacrifice on my part. Cos I am a little interested in the role for fun, maybe just for a couple of years. But yet I also like my current lifestyle and supporting the household in my own way.
But I do foresee that if I were to get the job, a lot of things would change, like, we wouldn't have so much time together. Maybe 25% of the month she would be out of the country, less free time on weekends, etc.
The feeling is quite strange cos this dilemma is quite unique. Also it makes me think, IF my old boss asked me to go back, without a need for interview, then how? What would I do? Would I go and take my old job back for another couple of years?
No point thinking about that now, I'll just have to cross that bridge if I ever get to it.
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