When we die, we reset, when we start poorly, we reset, when we don't achieve whatever, we reset.
In a game, it's so easy to reset. Just press a button.
Not so easy in real life.
I've thought about it sometimes. Resetting my life.
Like what would have happened if I studied a different topic and did not go into the finance industry?
Would things have been different? Would I have been happier doing another job?
Then this blog would not have existed and I might still be working happily?
Then I thought, hey, what's preventing me from doing that now?
I could take up a course on something for the next 2 years. Ok I'll need to spend some money.
Maybe $10,000-$20,000 if it's going to be a degree level qualification.
Then I could just reset and go and do another role right?
Somewhat, yes. It is possible.
But unlike a game reset, I can't really reset my age. I can't really reset all my stats and experience points. Basically, I can only retrain.
So it's like I started out training as a warrior and added my stat points to strength, then now, I am considering, maybe I'll be an archer, and I have to add dex points instead. And I'll probably not be as good as the other player who had started his whole game as an archer and focused his stats points into dex. The good thing is that archers usually require strength as a secondary stat so not all my strength stats are wasted. I'm slower than the rest. .
But it is highly possible to do a mid game switch.
There is some inertia though. Cos there's always the thought, what if I spent $10,000 retraining and I don't like being an archer?
Then I would have spent all that money/ time retraining and added stat points into archer based stats but I'm still not happy with the character/ job?
Then what? Retrain again to be a mage? Spend another $10,000?
Unlike a game, retraining takes really really long in real life and it costs real money.
But yet, standing still isn't the solution.
Life is really about trying to find the path and walking it. If you've found it, then good for you and you can continue walking it, but if you haven't then I think just need to keep searching. Very much like I also have to keep exploring.
Cos in the end, there's no right or wrong way to live your life. As long as you don't hurt anyone else.
You can be a lawyer or a bus driver, and it's still life.
The problem is always we benchmark against whatever is around us. So we look left and right and we see the high flying banker or lawyer and we think, I want that.
So we keep trying things that look nice. Cos it looks nice and we know it pays money.
Instead of trying the stuff we think might be fun. Like a baker, or gym instructor, dive instructor, etc.
Not to mention when we were young, our parents always told us to be doctors/ lawyers.
In my generation, I've never heard any parent tell their kids, just explore and find something fun to do and pursue that. It's always been, doctor or lawyer or pilot.
This generation, I think might be better. I see my friends letting their kids try different stuff, swimming, music, art classes, maybe they are still young and my friends are just letting them play around. Hopefully, they will continue to help their kids explore and develop their real interests instead of just asking them to focus on their studies and follow a traditional corporate career.
I knew of a friend who, by the time she finished junior college, had a diploma in music. So she was already able to teach music by the time she left JC. Eventually she furthered her studies and taught music.
So can we reset our lives, by right, somewhat yes, somewhat no.
We can retrain and start as a newbie in another industry. And there's absolutely nothing wrong with that. For all you know that may be the best decision that you have made in your life. That could have been your life goal. But due to your reluctance to retrain and pursue it cos you think you have to start from the bottom, you might have missed the path that gives you the most happiness.
I suppose even if the cost of resetting is high, it's probably necessary to do so. Cos what kind of life is it to keep playing the game when you don't even enjoy it? Then why even play it?
You play a game to enjoy it. If you don't like being a warrior, then must change right? Else might as well stop playing the game already.
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