The different decisions that got you here?
Some are big decisions, some are small decisions, some decisions don't make any difference, etc...
I look at myself and I think about this often.
The things I've done, the people I've met who has changed my life, and sometimes I would never have met those people if I didn't do some things, and those things may have been influenced by other people and it's a long chain of events.
I think I wrote about something like this previously...
Some days I think back...
I went to school and did relatively well... was that important? Not really... As long as I was able to get into Uni I think things would have been pretty much the same.
Although... if I didn't go to the same schools, maybe I would have met other people who might have influenced my life in another way... So THAT might have set me off on a different path entirely.
When I went to Uni, I studied Banking & Finance, I think this was an important decision. I think it helped me better understand investments.
I met a bunch of close friends, my wife in Uni.
Because I studied finance, I got into the finance industry, which paid fairly well.
I don't know if my results helped me get into the company I worked for, maybe if I did a bit worse I might not have gotten in? I'm not sure.
My girlfriend was supportive of me leaving my job after 3 years working. Probably another girl would not have the same mentality.
I left my job and explored unemployment and other stuff for 2 years.
Due to my unemployment, we were able to ballot for an HDB cos if both of us were working, we wouldn't be able to apply for HDB. We managed to get our current place due to this.
My old boss at my old company called me and asked me if I was looking for a job. And I managed to go back into the same company... with a slight increment from my last drawn pay.
Could I have managed to do the same if I was at another company? Would I have had a boss who called me to go back?
I worked another 4 years there to accumulate my wealth.
And again left my job, this time with a housing loan to service. Although we were able to pay off the house if we wanted to at this point already.
Once again, if it were any other girl, I might not have been able to get away with leaving my job.
We've always wanted to travel around but more often than not, we always procrastinate cos it was always too expensive. Somehow, my wife's job sends her around and so, we now travel quite a fair bit, although it is to the same places, we tend to extend to explore a bit.
If it were another job, we might not be able to do this.
Because I was blogging, I read Investmentmoat's article about Daniel Tay and learnt about freegan living.
I managed to get involved with a whole new community and managed to cut my expenses even more. This allowed me to gain more confidence in my finances cos with my reduced expenses I can make my assets last much longer.
Furthermore, I am even able to upgrade my life at zero cost cos I am now able to obtain things that I would never have been willing to buy previously, and now, I can get them for free.
And of course all of the above are just a short summary of the many things that's happened in my life.
There are other people I've met who has made me work harder, study harder, etc, sometimes it's just a short sentence, or maybe someone who scolded me and I learnt something from it.
And it always amazes me, how I got where I am. The forks in the road where everything might have been different if something else had changed. If we look at it from a probabilistic point of view, it's a very small chance of me ending up where I am now.
If I didn't get to the same schools, would I have met someone else who would lead my life down a different path?
If I didn't get into my previous company, would I have earned the same amount? Would I have been happier in another company and I might not have left my job?
If I met another girl would I have had the same experiences?
Where would I be staying now, if I did not leave my job and managed to ballot for this HDB?
Which tends to make me think, are things fated?
Are we meant to meet certain people who will make us do certain things? To teach us certain lessons?
There are so many coincidences in my life. Are things just meant to be?
Of course, these are passing thoughts, it's quite amazing how my life has lead up to here.
Yet there's nothing that can be done about it.
Is everything just a coincidence?
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