I was talking with a friend recently.
And I was talking about curating my life or lifestyle.
And she mentioned it's like a gardener.
Removing the weeds and planting the seeds and letting the good things grow.
And I think that's pretty much what I've been trying to do.
Keep the good things and remove the rubbish.
Like... I've been always trying to cut off negative people from my life. People who don't agree with what I do, I let them go.
Or people who do things which I find... Irrational and maybe they are right. I also try to avoid them. Absolutely nothing wrong with what they do. Just for me, it blows my mind when I see people do illogical things and it makes my mind go crazy.
Personally, I don't like unnecessary stress on my mind.
And I realize I do this for a lot of aspects in my life.
Like my freegan activities. I've cut off a lot of stuff and just focused on getting free food for my daily life. That's the most important thing for me, cos I don't really need the other stuff. And for me, the excess brings clutter or I may need to find someone to give the items to.
I still pick up items if they fall right in front of me. But I don't proactively go and hunt for things.
And for me, I think this has helped me to attain a more constant flow of stability.
I craft my life to try to attain a constant flow of positivity. I try to keep it at a low level of happiness and consistency instead of a life full of us and downs. For me, I'd rather keep a constant level of low consistent happiness than large movements of happiness and stress or unhappiness.
It just works better for me.
This also means I might cut off good things from my life.
Like... I think a job may be fun to pursue. Maybe it adds +100 points of happiness from money gained, and maybe it gives me -90 points of stress and unhappiness.
So maybe I cut this off cos the ratio isn't good. It's still positive happiness, but the volatility is too much for me.
I'd prefer something which may give me +10 happiness but -0 points of stress.
It's similar to freegan activities.
Food is boring. Just take some vegetables. The dollar value is also barely there. But it's good constant free food.
Compared against dumpster diving for merchandise. That's really fun and I could probably obtain a lot of cool items. But theres effort involved and I get clutter and need to find a way to dispose or pass on the stuff to someone else.
So there's a lot of plus points and also a lot of minus points which I don't like. So I've pretty much stopped doing that.
And sometimes I also feel quite bad when I decline to go for some group gatherings, it's fun to meet up sometimes, and it's good to keep in contact with people, but occasionally.
I really don't like group gatherings. One on one lunches are fine with me. I just find meeting in a group too tiring for my old self.
And this is really a personal decision, cos I know I've lost stuff by doing this, I've lost other good experiences but also avoided experiences that I don't like. So it's a trade off and I'm ok with it.
For me, I want to conserve my energy. Spend time and effort on things that I like and avoid people, activities or things that I don't really like.
It's pretty much trying to focus on the stuff with I feel are worthy of my attention.
Although I do feel I do miss out on some other stuff. But it's a trade off I'm willing to make.
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