Well, you see, when I moved here, I thought that there would be some great change in my life. I mean, come on right? It's Paris, I've heard so much about it, people talk about it, it's a different lifestyle, it's blah blah blah...
You'll get more independent, it will be more exciting, etc... I've heard and even felt/expected so many things.
Like I was expecting it to be really life changing and WOW and that things would be different.
Well... After my first 2 weeks and when things pretty much settled down, there wasn't any difference.
So I felt a bit... confused...
How can my life in Paris be so similar to my life in SG?
And this befuddled me until a few days ago. It took me a lot of thinking and reflection.
I came to a conclusion that... well... ERSG from SG is the same person as ERSG in Paris.
Sounds pretty stupid right?
You see, when I came here, I thought things would suddenly change.
That things would be exciting. Things would be different.
BUT... I'm the same person! How can things be more exciting?
I like my stable life!
I like collecting free food. I don't like spending money. I don't really like going out cos it's really expensive here. I like staying in my apartment and watching shows and learning new recipes, etc...
Yes, we do go out sometimes on weekends, have a meal out for a change, but mostly, we enjoy a more peaceful lifestyle.
We will be traveling a bit around Europe region but not too much and on budget.
Generally, we don't keep going out looking for the next thrill, next purchase, next... whatever!
Now, imagine if I had a lifestyle of ... many Singaporeans. Like my friends on FB.
I see them post pictures of dinners, lunch, going out to many exotic locations in SG, the new playground, their evening drinks, new food locations, etc...
So IF I had that kind of lifestyle in SG, then... I'm sure my experience in Paris would be significantly different. Cos... There would be so much more to explore, so much to do, so many new experiences. So many new things to buy and spend on. Then confirm they will tell you that there's so much to do, so much to see, so much to spend on and experience.
So you see... you are who you are. It doesn't change overnight regardless of where you are.
I'm comfortable with my lifestyle in SG, and of course I will want to try to replicate it in Paris.
If I enjoy going out and playing and spending and new experiences in SG, then I will want to do the same in Paris. But, I'm not like that.
Now, how does this relate to everyone else?
Well... you know... every year, people HOPE that the next year will be a good year? People try to keep new year resolutions, etc etc...
Same same... it's still the same person.
We are all programmed in a certain way and we do things for ourselves to be "comfortable".
If we want to change, it takes effort, dedication, discipline, or a life changing event. Else there's little chance of change.
For me, I'm happy with my lifestyle in SG and in Paris. I was just kinda confused cos I expected some mind-blowing new experience.
But, for folks who aren't happy with life, aren't happy with certain things in life, then... there needs to be some active steps to improve their lives. Sitting around and hoping won't change anything. You're still the same person. Today, tomorrow, this year, next year... That 1 second between 31 Dec 2019 23:59:59 to 1 Jan 2020 00:00:00 isn't going to change much...
Hmmm... I'd liken this to how I removed sugar from my coffee.
Long time ago, I drank sugared coffee. One day, I decided that I wanted to cut down sugars in my life, so I reduced my sugar intake for my coffee. So from one teaspoon sugar, I cut to half teaspoon. After a few weeks, 1/4 teaspoon, after a few weeks 1/8, then no sugar... Woah the difference between 1/8 teaspoon to 0 sugar is super hard. So during that time I did some days with 1/8 sugar, some days no sugar at all. And eventually, after a few months, I was able to drink coffee without sugar.
Change is a step by step thing.
Weight loss, financial wealth building, training for a marathon, etc...
If you want to save more money, you'll need to proactively find ways to do it. Else it will be very natural for anyone to just slip back into their usual way of doing things and spending again.
Ok I've dragged on long enough.
Simply put, I expected a more exciting lifestyle in Paris but because I'm me, I built the same lifestyle in Paris exactly the same as the one in SG.
I'm happy about that.
Except for some strange reason, somehow, I expected things to be different. Although, I did things the same way. So there's almost no chance for things to turn out differently.
Remember this, the next time you hope that something changes. Cos the most important change is in yourself.
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