I find it quite interesting that being an unambitious loser is a problem.
I mean... I really don't care and I really love to identify myself as one.
I get comments especially from my mum about my current lifestyle. She doesn't say it straight out. But she hints at my lack of ambition and idleness.
And usually, I get agitated.
Somehow I have this expectation that she'd understand and leave me alone.
And basically that's what I want. Just for people to leave me alone. Or I will leave them alone.
And that's really simple with friends.
Most of my friends don't bother about my lifestyle. Or maybe it's cos I've selected very few people whom I classify as friends. And for people who don't understand me. Or they can't keep an open mind that other lifestyles exist, I just leave them alone. And it's really easy to lose contact with people.
And it's very easy to filter out people who are open minded and the folk will accept what I am doing.
I just tell them that I'm an unambitious loser. If they don't accept it. Then "ok bye take care".
It's really easy to just cut off the negative people out of my life.
The idea is very simple for me. I don't really hide who I am. I just let it out. If people accept it. Good, I can get closer to such people. If they don't accept it. Also good, cos I know I can just dump those folks and grow my relationships with people whom I think are cool.
Have I lost "friends"?
Yes of course I have.
But they were never friends to begin with. And I'll do better without them.
So I don't really think too much about hiding who I am from others especially those whom I want to find out whether to keep them or dump them.
Better to find out sooner than later.
Then there are folks whom I don't talk too much to. Or those whom I'm lazy to explain myself.
Like people whom I haven't met in years.
And likely I won't meet them again. And I really can't be bothered to tell them my story. So usually I just tell them I'm unemployed. It's easier. Then they don't ask so many questions.
The thing is.... I can't really avoid my mum. So it gets troublesome sometimes.
I don't really meet my relatives often so those are easy to handle. I just say I'm unemployed. Like how I handle any other folks whom I don't meet often.
The best thing about being unemployed is that I currently meet a lot of new people who are similar to myself.
Who are not from my past. Who aren't in my old industry. And it allows me to form new impressions with like minded people. And I don't have to be someone I'm not. The problem with staying employed or at work is that we usually end up having to interact with people who are the usual folk... Consumers, ambitious, etc.
Their lifestyles are absolutely fine. Nothing wrong with being a normal consumer. But as much as I leave them alone and they can do whatever they want with their lives, I hope that they leave me alone. Which is rarely the case.
Somehow, people like it when others are like themselves. Or when they themselves are like others.
See... The thing is... I'm ok with bring an unambitious loser. I'm ok with that.
Just that I hope people just leave me alone. I'm not defined by the job I do. My friends know that. Why are we friends? Cos we share certain values, interests, I treat them well, with respect, etc.
Working or not... I don't think that's what is a key criteria to determine whether I should be friends with someone or not.
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