This happens a lot when we have conflicting feelings vs thinking.
Example.
Using my mind, logic, I think I should have enough to retire. The maths work out.
However, maybe in my heart, I feel that it is not enough.
Now, this is a conflict within myself. And it will be there forever until it is addressed.
So either, I continue to work until I earn enough until my heart feels that it is enough.
Or I overcome my heart and address the insecurity. Which is probably harder to address.
The problem is, many people will continue to feel insecure even though they have a high networth.
This could also be applied to many other scenarios.
Maybe in a relationship.
Maybe when you first got together with your partner, everything was nice and happy.
Then things got worse, maybe no more feelings, etc...
However, maybe in your heart you might think... I'm still happy. Cos the heart may remember the past happiness when younger.
But in your mind, maybe things have already changed. Logically, you think... this isn't what I want in my life, I want to do more, OR less, or maybe you think you deserve better, now that you're older and you know yourself better and know what you want.
OR... I understand that many homosexuals struggle a lot with themselves.
In their hearts, they are attracted to the same sex.
But in their minds, they look around and logically, they themselves feel abnormal.
They will question themselves. WHY are they like that? Why do they feel attracted to the same sex?
And it's a struggle.
Many of us struggle in similar ways.
Maybe in a breakup you read online, or get advice from others.
And logically, what's written is... well maybe the other person just wants something else.
A different kind of partner. Different goals in life.
But maybe in your heart you will just blame yourself. Maybe there's something wrong with me. I'm lacking, I'm a loser, I don't earn enough, etc...
Sometimes the mind is right, sometimes the heart is right.
Sometimes, it's easier to adjust the heart to be in line with your mind.
Sometimes, it's easier to adjust the mind to align with your heart.
It's not for me to tell you which is best for yourself. That, you have to determine for yourself.
The thing is. If your mind and heart don't align, you won't be able to find peace.
Even if you are a Buddhist. You may study and learn a lot about letting go.
In the mind, it's easy to say. But in the heart. Not so easy.
Logically, it makes a lot of sense. But practically it's not easy to let things go.
So you have to decide which do you want to pursue.
Do you want to follow your heart? Or follow logic?
Pick your choice and follow through with it. And forget about the other part.
Example.
If I was struggling with insecurity of my finances, even though logically, I have enough to retire.
Then IF I cannot get over my own insecurity and fear, then I can just decide. FORGET IT. I'm just going to give up on early retirement. I'll just work til I'm old.
And don't look back. Don't even bother to think about early retirement anymore.
If I keep thinking about retirement. Then I'll struggle constantly and try to align the 2 conflicting issues.
OR
If I really want to retire. Then I'll have to just let the insecurity go.
Or be happy living with some sense of insecurity and take it as part of life.
Basically, just accept it and let it go.
It's as simple as that.
But yea... I know. Easy to say, hard to do.
A lot of us struggle with this all the time with numerous issues.
Our heart says one thing, our minds, logic say another thing.
And how we align it, get over it... That's the challenge.
And once you're able to align them.
Then you will have peace.
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