So I was thinking about... What is love?
I would think the simplest way to look at love is a parent's love for their child. In most cases, a parent will take care of the child, try to give them a good education, help them when they are in trouble, even after they grow up, a parent will still worry and be concerned about their kids. And even if the kids are rebellious, more often than not, a parent would help their child regardless of right or wrong.
Maybe another way to put it would be selfless sacrifice.
But when I think about so called other forms of love... This idea falls apart.
Love between a couple. Be it in a marriage or partnership... Is pretty much a contract of exchange.
It is pretty much, I take care of you with the expectation that you take care of me. Or each person fulfills their respective parts of their relationship, whatever their respective roles may be.
Else... If you don't fulfill certain expectations, then there's no relationship.
Is this love?
When we were younger, boys chased girls, girls chased boys... But after awhile, if the other party isn't interested... The chaser walks away.
I know of almost no instance of anyone who keeps trying to woo the other party for an extended period of time when the other party is not interested.
Between a couple, there is always some sort of expectations to be fulfilled. Else it's just not going to work out.
Is that love? Or is it a contact of exchange?
But when a person buys a pet dog... Again the relationship is different.
Some people love their pet dog like a family. And yet, there are no expectations on the pet dog, except for the pet to be happy, cos just the existance of the pet dog has brought additional happiness to the owners life.
On the other hand, there are people who cannot handle the dog, feel that it's a chore to take care of the pet and eventually ill treat it or abandon it.
But are there really no expectations on a pet?
Doesn't the person who buys the pet expect the pet to provide some form of additional happiness in the owners life?
Which is why when expectations are not met, some people may abandon their pets?
Then in that case, if there are expectations, then is it love?
If you don't fulfill my expectations and I remove my care and concern and other benefits, is that love?
But if that's the case, then almost all marriages have no love.
And the only real love is of selfless sacrifice?
End... There's no conclusion to this post...
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