I think everyone know that no one is perfect.
Finding a partner is not about finding the perfect person. But rather finding the perfect person for yourself.
So most people have some criteria to look for that special someone.
Examples below in no order of importance.
7) Good job
8) Willing to spend on the partner
9) Nice body
10) Good with kids
The list goes on. Each person values each characteristic differently.
So maybe out of the above list, the high priority items which you feel are
3) Good job
4) Willing to spend on the partner
5) Good with kids
So you found this partner and have been together for maybe 3-5 years.
Married or not married doesn't matter. Just been together in general.
That's when some folks start to wonder.
Cos you already have this partner with all these 5 characteristics. And you've gotten used to it.
It has become NORMAL. So now that you've got someone with these 5 good characteristics, you don't value it anymore.
You start to wonder. Actually my priorities were wrong.
I should have searched for
5) Willing to spend on the partner
So some folks will go and try to find another partner. Maybe it's for the better, maybe they end up regretting it. Who's to know.
So anyway today's post is pretty much to get an understanding of yourself at any point in time.
Cos things change as time changes. Feelings will change with time as well.
And what was important previously might not be so important now anymore.
(Previously searched for a rich partner. But now since I have my own money, I'm not interested in my partner's wealth anymore)
Or what was important previously might SEEM not to be so important now anymore.
(Previously searched for a partner who was willing to spend on me. But I've gotten used to it and think that it's not important. After changing to another partner, I realized that he doesn't like to spend on me and I'm affected by it)
It's really important to understand yourself and what you want and what you deem really important. Also it's important to know they you might get used to things and you may take it for granted but you may miss it when it is lost.
An example MIGHT be Brad Pitt.
I don't know what really happened so it's just speculation.
He had a partner, Jennifer Aniston.
Maybe he got used to the happiness she brought him so he changed to Angelina Jolie.
Then maybe he also got used to the happiness she brought him so he change to... Marion Cotillard?
I'm not sure. Not important.
Basically people get used to things. So it's important to know and be aware of that before making decisions.
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