So after a couple of messages, I told him, ok, I'll go check it out...
Today I met him for lunch. I meet him for lunch quite regularly. Around once a week or once in 2 weeks. And we usually don't exchange Christmas presents and such...
So we were in the restaurant waiting for our food and I took out this box of cigars and said "Merry Christmas!"
And he starred at me and said... "You bought these???" (He seemed quite happy with them.)
And I looked and him and told him... "No... Are you mad???"
And his eyes REALLY widened and he asked... "You FOUND them?!"
And I was like... "Yep..."
And he said... "Woah, thanks... this brings a whole new meaning to the words "It's the thought that counts.""
And I smiled...
I thought about those words... a whole new meaning to the words... "It's the thought that counts..."
Getting things free, really changes those words.
He knows where I found them. Zero cost to me...
And yet, he's happy with the gift.
And I'm very happy to give it to him.
It really changes thing when gifts are zero cost.
Cos a mug is the same as a pair of cigars, or a printer, etc... well I'll look for a brand new one if I was going to gift it as a present.
And then I realize... it really is the thought that counts.
And it's like... of all the things I've found, I thought of him when I was sorting through my stuff and thought that he would like it.
Then I wonder... what would I be without this new way of thinking?
Would I think about someone else? Would I think about giving my stuff away?
If I earned money, where does it go?
Ok fine, some people are ok to receive such gifts, and other people I just don't tell them where I got it from.
But it really does change things for me. When I collect my free stuff, I think about do I need it, do I want it, who can I pass this to, etc etc.
Whereas when we go shopping in the stores, we don't think much about others... we don't think about our friends. We just buy stuff for the folks immediately around us, usually family or kids, rarely do we think about our friends, friends should earn their own money and buy their own stuff. Actually, family also should earn their own money and buy their own stuff...
And then he asked me... "hey I'm looking for a printer..."
And I told him I had a working printer but without the cables and I would pass it to him once I found the cables.
"and a DVD player... " he added... and I was pretty much... "Sure..."
Then he cancelled the order for the DVD player cos he was joking... and I laughed, cos life really is different when things are free.
The thing about giving away stuff is that people feel bad when taking stuff. So he walked around with me and bought some snacks for his family and distributed some to me. Quite expensive stuff, I was pretty much... "ehhhh... don't need la..."
But once again, I learnt that when I give, I must also learn to receive gracefully.
So that the cycle of gracefulness continues.
Being able to gift stuff on a whim really does change my mental perception of a lot of things.
It doesn't need to be new all the time.
But when someone asks, "hey do you have a DVD player", I can tell him, "wait..."
Whereas previously it was a definite, "Are you mad?"
Like who gives away DVD players or printers in the real world?
Ok, I'm not trying to show off that I'm giving away stuff, rather, I'd like to share that when things are free, giving away stuff isn't really very hard anymore. I can make someone happy by giving him free cigars and probably a free printer in the coming days.
The mental perception of items and value is now very very different from previously and I'm stunned by my own change in mentality.
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