So long story short, a couple of bloggers have posted about this...
The monk is supposed to be a frugal person who "suffers" and gets used to suffering and having less and thus is able to "enjoy" life cos he has gotten used to having no wants.
The warrior is someone who has made it big, by taking risks, maybe a entrepreneur, so he's someone who fought a great battle, won it and is living it up now... Do or die trying, and there are a lot of people who have died trying.
The farmer is likely someone who's employed and just doing his own thing and living a normal life spending and saving some...
Ok so... of course in real life, everything has a gradient.
So there's going to be a frugal farmer who's got high farmer attributes but a few points of monk attributes.
Or a frugal warrior, who's got both attributes like... Lee Ka Shing.
So I take My15HWW's story in good faith and as a good example of what various aspects of different lives could be.
I thought the story was pretty well written, the examples are sufficiently realistic... Of course, not everyone is 100% monk, or 100% farmer, or 100% warrior... most of us have different attributes and are a bit of all of them.
The story by My15HWW was inspired by DrWealth...
Which was about "Are financial bloggers suffering..."
Now... THIS struck a chord in me.
The thing is... I've never thought of myself as suffering.
Yes I've given up some of the material stuff which I would like to have for a greater purpose.
But I've never looked at it as suffering or depriving myself.
Have you played chess? International chess or Chinese chess...
What's the goal? To checkmate the other king/general.
If I sacrifice my pieces to get a better positioning, am I suffering? NO. I want to win the game.
It's part of the game right? To sacrifice pieces to move the game forward, to get better positioning and eventually win.
So it's never really been about suffering. To me, it's really been what do I want more?
AND how do I balance it? Cos we still live a very good lifestyle. Frugal, yet we get to enjoy a lot of things.
If we want to spend money, then we make sure the money spent is worth it. We don't squander small bits of money here and there to feel good for the moment but in the end the item isn't used and is just kept in the storeroom.
Do I drink Starbucks? Yes I do, sometimes. I find keeping money happier than spending it on a Starbucks.
Do I park at somewhere for 30 minutes and drive out even though the first parking bloc is for 1 hour?
Yes I do. I don't just hang around just to make the full worth of my parking even though I "waste" an additional 30 minutes of parking time.
The idea is simple. I spend money when I need to spend money, when convenience is important, I spend money to buy convenience, especially when overseas. But when I have time and nothing better to do, I save when I can. So sometimes, I park further away to save a couple of dollars.
I have the option to eat good food everyday, but it's bad for health. So I have chosen to eat more vegetables and cook for myself with less oil and salt. It's a choice. Would I have preferred to eat good food everyday? Yes, obviously. I can even get it for free. BUT... I CHOOSE not to, cos in the long run, I will be healthier.
Should I instead choose NOT to suffer? And eat good food everyday and gain weight and become unhealthier? Doesn't make sense right?
Is exercise suffering? Some people enjoy exercise, but I don't and yet I still try to do it, but there is an end goal to this. I want to be healthier.
Same for being frugal. I want to be wealthier. So I am frugal. Some people feel that being frugal is suffering, others take it as second nature. For me, being frugal is very natural. I don't feel like I'm sacrificing anything cos when I need to, I will still spend.
So I think drawing hard lines about things is really quite misrepresenting.
Being frugal = Suffering.
Being rich = not being frugal.
Being pretty = dumb blonde.
Being smart = nerd.
But in reality, it's not like that. It's all a gradient, we have a bit of everything, some have more of certain attributes, others have less, some feel that being rich is a goal, others don't like the stress, some feel exercise is fun, I think it's troublesome and tiring.
Doesn't mean when I'm frugal, I don't go out with friends and enjoy once in a while. I have a social life, but I balance it out with my other goals. Some friends go out twice a week, some go out once a week, I may go out with them once every 2 weeks, etc...
It's really not all yes or no... there's plenty of other ways to look at things in-between, and making it work in a way that's suitable for your own self. And I think many times, people tend to just see things as yes or no, that if they choose to be frugal means, they 100% give up on all their wants.
It was like my journey into freegan-ism... Some people immediately rejected it cos it may have elements of dumpster diving, and yet... I haven't even done that in a long while. I've just done what I felt was suitable for myself and integrated other ways of getting free stuff into my life.
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